Filipino Customs

Today, 30 Sep 2017, my family attended a wedding. We were special guests at this wedding, but for a reason. It was in a baranguay (district or specific area) about 15 miles from our home. We were asked to attend because they wanted us to be the Ninong and Ninang for them.  Filipinos who read this will smile, already knowing what this means. Being asked to become Ninong (for guys), and Ninang (for ladies) is an honor here, and is not asked or accepted lightly. In American terms, we were being asked to become their God parents. Their adopted, and formally and officially recognized, second set of parents. It is a responsibility that includes themselves, and will affect their future children. It is a serious thing that involves helpful donations to the wedding, and to their future. It is a normal part of life here, and almost everyone has a Ninong or Ninang.  My wife has two sets.  There is really no limit. After the ceremony, you become part of their extended family, and whenever or wherever they see you they must show a sign of respect to you. This is done by the Ninong or Ninang holding out their right hand, palm down, fingers pointing to the ground.  The younger person will reach out with his/her right hand also, and take you by the fingers, then touch the back of your hand to their forehead.  This is a formal show of respect. Your responsibilities can include doing absolutely nothing at all, extending all the way up to helping them or their children financially (ie. college).  It is normal to give them gifts on special occasions, or sponsor a party for them (like turning 21, or graduating) Basically you try to help them succeed. They will, from now on, address you as Ninong or Ninang, and not your real name. It is no different to them as is saying "dad", "mother", or any other personal title. Many other cultures outside the P.I. also do this, and have for centuries. That is why, when I mentioned extended families earlier, they have large family units, that could involve 15, 20 or even 30 people. It's an interesting culture. My wife and I took it for what it was; an honor!